How do talking therapies work, and how do you access them?
They are structured, time-limited treatments with evidence behind them, not simply conversation — and the differences between them matter, because they suit different problems.
The main types:
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). The most widely available, focused on the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviour, and on changing patterns in the present. Structured, usually with homework between sessions, and typically 6–20 sessions. The strongest evidence base for anxiety disorders and depression.
Counselling, exploring feelings and situations with less structure, useful for life events, bereavement and relationship difficulties.
Interpersonal therapy, focused on relationships and roles.
EMDR, for trauma and PTSD, using bilateral stimulation while processing memories — unusual-sounding and well supported for that specific indication.
Psychodynamic therapy, exploring how past experience shapes present patterns, generally longer-term.
Third-wave approaches such as acceptance and commitment therapy and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, focused on relating differently to thoughts rather than changing them.
How to access them:
Self-referral is available to NHS talking therapies services for common problems in England — you do not need to see a GP first, which is the single most useful thing to know and is widely unknown.
Via a GP, particularly where medication or other conditions are involved.
Through an employer, via an employee assistance programme, usually offering a small number of sessions quickly.
Privately, where waiting times are shorter and cost is the barrier — check registration with an accredited professional body, since "therapist" is not a protected title.
Charities, several of which offer free or low-cost services for specific issues.
What to expect: an assessment first, which is not therapy; a stepped approach starting with lower-intensity options such as guided self-help; and a genuine expectation of work between sessions.
What predicts benefit more than the modality: the therapeutic relationship, your engagement, and a shared understanding of the goal. It is reasonable to change therapist if it does not fit.
Urgent help exists separately and should not wait for a therapy waiting list.
General information, not medical advice.